Nerdy, Kinky and POC

In this episode, The Ganja Goddesses chat with J who is a personal friend of ours and within the BDSM scene. We discuss racism in this country. We feel it is important to help lift up voices in the black community especially now. J offers some unique and surprising perspectives on different facets of this very serious issue. While the episode dives right into the deep end, we swim all around. Though we talk about heavy subjects, there is tons of comedy and laughter throughout to keep it fun and entertaining. J speaks beautifully on the topic of connecting with partners and sharing energy. The point of equality and humanity as a whole is a key theme behind most of the conversation. You'll want to listen all the way through for a fun segment called "Gag Talk."

J’s Bio:

I am J. I am Dragon and Phoenix. The dragon, made of burning passion and knowledge. The phoenix, consumed by fire- reborn and rebuilt of experience and understanding. Chaos and Restraint in equal measure. I am an individual who is the result of the balance of his experiences - both wonderful and awful.

I was born the only child of a single mother, raised in Atlantic City. She taught me that stories don’t have to end where they begin. She started me on a journey towards knowledge, igniting in me my first passion. At this point in my life, knowledge had shown me a need for discipline in life, and Martial Arts was a conduit for that discipline.

As I matured into adulthood, Kink came naturally to me. I found the community at the age of 19, when I was introduced to swinging. It was wonderful. I was in my prime. I was the young stud, the BBC, that every filly wanted. Through these experiences and my relationships, I came to understand that connection was what I wanted more than anything. Profound connection became a new passion for me to pursue - to understand others and how they connect.  That led me to find my home in the BDSM community. It was here that I found limitless ways to connect with people through shared experiences - physically, emotionally, spiritually. Connection is how we can communicate without words.

I have become a stalwart advocate of the BDSM community. I have been a community leader for a number of years. It has been my mission to provide safe and enjoyable environments for people to pursue these shared experiences.  I am an instructor and demonstrator at events, a mentor, and founder of an event group that provides education and access to community experiences.

Who am I? In a few words - Husband. Father. Geek. Friend. Dominant. Philosopher. Entrepreneur. Batman. I am J.

Key topics:
● Growing up as a mixed black man
● Being a black Dominant with white submissives
● Living that geeky kink life
● Swinger lifestyle vs. kinky lifestyle
● Being known as a BBC and feelings around that term
● Fun gag talk

Resources:
● J's Info: https://fetlife.com/users/1298214
● "Growing up black in America: here's my story of everyday" by Brian Jones https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/us-news/2018/jun/06/growing-up-black-in-america-racism-education
● Resources to understand America’s long history of injustice and inequality: https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2020/06/08/understanding-racism-inequality-america/?arc404=true

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